Don’t mess it up
Sexual intimacy is equally for each other. Take care not to use it as anything else other than for true love for each other.
No keeping score, withholding, or any manipulation for gain, or getting square, or playing games. You could be sipping your own poison, like a time bomb waiting to explode. The consequences can be damaging in a relationship.
I strongly suggest you seek very caring, experienced counsel if you’ve been playing with fire. You can sort it out to get the wow back. Champions, make it happen! It’s worth it. Intimacy is not a thing or a toy, or something to be used to gain favour. It’s a part of your whole being and it’s at its utmost when it’s spiritual.
I know you want the best in your intimacy. Don’t mess it up. Your quality time in bed together and its beauty and amazement builds from the smallest things. Once you appreciate each other’s love language and needs, don’t waste important minutes doing things that don’t count.
This is a mighty important point. Don’t try to motivate your woman into doing things for you with criticism, a dose of guilt or by throwing a hissy fit.
If you feel that you are being criticised, bossed around, bullied or abused, just be open and honest. Gently tell your woman that you feel criticised and discouraged.
Take care how and when you do this, because you could send her into silence or yelling from anger without trying, or you could be unknowingly doing the same thing to her.
However, if you’re both on the ball and you both want the best for your love relationship you’ll laugh, keep on track and sort it out. But if there’s only one of you on the ball, be very gentle. Tell your story with love and care and at the best time of the day. It may take time for the other person to feel safe enough to hear and understand.