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Patience

Patience. I was a bit of a hothead as a young bloke. I grew up with a bad temper and wanted my way instantly. I didn’t have a clue about patience. Thankfully, my dad had his ‘attitude adjuster’ and he gently and tactfully knocked me into reality. Ha ha! He turned my bad-sport attitude around to help me become a determined young achiever. Dad helped me grow a lot of stickability. He patiently and consistently helped me develop.

Where else can a bloke get a bit of help? Unless the Big Fella builds the house, You blokes who build the house do it in vain; Unless the Big Fella keeps his eye on the job, The blokes you have looking after it may as well stay in bed asleep. (Psalm 127:1, Watto Version)

Joy

Joy moments - Fellas, at this part of the book, what is joy meaning to you? Here’s some thoughts from other blokes.
MATT: Patience leads to joy. | STEVE: Joy is living out God’s desires for me as opposed to the world’s desires or the desires of others forced upon me. | DAVO: Joy for me is connection with friends/mates. It means having friends who stand by you and who you stand by. Our first response to tough times is, ‘God, rescue me!’ but God wants to show us instead that he is bigger than our adversity. God wants to walk with you today however tough the journey is.

Champion Love Story

Champion love stories. We were that couple who were crazy, passionately, head-over-heels in love. With the birth of our first child, all of a sudden I didn’t really know who I was. My name, hormones, body, job and lifestyle had all changed dramatically. Our relationship wasn’t exciting dates and holidays anymore but sleep deprivation and boring chores. It was a period of grinding gears, quarrels, confusion and conflict. I went from being independent, capable and accomplished in my professional life, to being at home all day with a baby, doing jobs that quickly came undone. When Toby would leave for work in the morning I felt jealous that he got to go out and ‘have a life’.

Encourage!

Encourage Each Other. I‘m a natural-born encourager and because it’s easy for me to give it, it’s easy for me to teach you how receive it and pass it on to others. Seriously, can anyone get by without encouragement? I don’t believe they can. I reckon most people have to survive on the smallest amount. This need not be the case – it can be changed. So, how do you get more encouragement? Once you learn to give encouragement, eventually it will come back to you in bucket loads.

A Little Bit of Encouragement

A little bit of encouragement.

thoughts or on your mind? Why not pick up the phone and say, ‘Howdy. I’ve been thinking about you. How’s it going?’ Then listen carefully and give a kind word of encouragement. I guarantee you’ll make that person’s day. A text message also works well – and for the girl of your dreams it’s worth double gold!

From the Work Manual… how good!

Nothing is more appealing than speaking beautiful, life-giving words, for they release sweetness to our souls, inner healing to our spirits. (Proverbs 16:24 TPT)

We all want and need encouragement. It can make us, or the lack of it can break us. Encouragement is sorta like a plant in the garden. Keep the water and the right sunshine up to it and it keeps looking better and better. No water, no encouragement – the plant withers up and dies. It’s a plant but it’s dead. We can be like that. We can get around, but we’re a dead man walkin’. Encouragement comes in so many different ways and it’s the most amazing thing. It’s pretty normal for us blokes to need an affirming, encouraging word from another man, no matter how old we are. If you try this, remember, blokes like you to call it as it is – straight down the line, with no patronising.

Encourage from the heart 

Encouragement from the head is good, but whatever courage it may take for you to give it out of your heart will result in a win! Gold!

Come on, how much does it cost to talk to someone? You can do it. Let the words flow from your heart, especially to the girl of your dreams.

Just a friendly nod, or a genuine, ‘Good morning’, or ‘Have a great day’ can lift a person’s attitude. We can’t get inside someone’s head so we’ll never know what’s going on in their life. One word at the right time can really make a difference.

This is a gem from the Work Manual:

And let us consider how we may spur [encourage] one another on toward love and good deeds. (Hebrews 10:24 NIV)

That is, lovingly encourage others to ‘extract the digit’ and make it happen.

Remember: Encourage, encourage, encourage. We can change the world for the better with this one. It beats criticism and judgement any day of the week.

Champions, this is another favourite of mine from the Work Manual:

‘Do not hold back encouragement from those who deserve it when it is in your power to act’ (Proverbs 3:27).

How good is that!

I want to repeat this one. ‘Do not hold back encouragement when it’s within your power to give it.’ So come on, let’s do it.

Fellas, the more we learn to give and receive encouragement the more we get to experience that place of being a satisfied bloke in all areas of our life.

The Power of Encouragement 

The power of encouragement Have a read of this little beauty from the Work Manual: Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid. God is with you wherever you go. (Joshua 1:9 Watto Version). When we encourage somebody we actually empower courage into that person to get on with something positive in their life. When they encourage us, we are empowered with courage – so let’s make sure we start with the girl of our dreams.

Encouragement

Encouragement from WATTO. Encouragement comes easier to some of us than others, but it’s OK, you can learn it. Once you learn to give it, eventually it will come back to you in bucket loads No ‘fluffy duck’ patronising stuff. Start small, and keep it real. I’ve never seen a bloke or a woman go backward with encouragement!

Share the Joy!

‘Pursue righteousness,’ said Jesus, ‘and be satisfied.’ (Matthew 5:6)

In other words, pursue his way of living and be a satisfied bloke.

Fellas, it’s not about ‘religion’! You don’t find satisfaction deep within your heart and soul from chasing rituals, traditions, or stuff that’s human-created.

It’s possible to know the words but not be able to sing the songs. We can sit in church, go through the stuff, and not meet Jesus. Don’t fall for diversion, just go straight to the top and hang out with the Creator of the universe. How good! He’ll keep you in tune!

I am satisfied. I know who I am and Whose I am. My heart and soul are free and clean. I’m in a great place. Hope you are too.

I choose to do a thing we could call ‘right living’ to the best of my ability. That doesn’t mean I’m ‘always right’! It’s doing life the Big Fella’s way from the promises in his Work Manual, and seeing his Son, Jesus, as my true-to-life present-day lifestyle coach. You will know by now that I choose to accept the spiritual part of who I am, so I have my heart and soul open to a constant flow of God’s joy coming into my being. The best way to get more joy is to keep it flowing out to others. Whether you accept the spiritual part of you is your call. Don’t be pushed or rushed either way.

Learning to Play Conversation Tennis - With Watto

If you’ve played tennis, you know what it means to have a good rally back and forwards over the net. We can liken this to good conversation, because we want the communication to keep going – just like a tennis rally. We may have a few shots or hard words and are not afraid to lob one up in the air occasionally, but if we trust each other we don’t want to play any shifty shots against the other person and knock them out of the conversation.

Book Launch - Can We Talk?

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